The toi et moi engagement rings—French for “You and Me”—is more than just a piece of jewelry. With its signature two-stone design, it represents two souls, two stories, and one powerful bond. But when it comes to designing your own, one of the most exciting (and meaningful) decisions you’ll make is choosing the perfect gemstones.

With endless combinations of colors, cuts, and symbolism, it can feel a little overwhelming—but that’s where the magic lies. Here’s a simple guide to help you choose the right gems for your Toi et Moi ring and create a design that’s both beautiful and personal.

1. Start with Symbolism: What Do the Stones Mean to You?

Every gemstone carries its own meaning—and in a Toi et Moi ring, those meanings become deeply personal. Many couples choose stones that represent:

• Birth months (e.g., garnet for January, sapphire for September)

• Zodiac signs

• Milestone dates (anniversaries, the month you met, etc.)

• Spiritual qualities like love (rose quartz), loyalty (sapphire), or healing (amethyst)

Think about what each gem can say about your relationship. You and your partner might choose a stone that reflects your personality or one that’s been passed down through your family.

At KRK Jewels, we often help couples select gemstones that represent not just who they are—but who they’ve become together.

2. Think Contrast or Harmony?

One of the most eye-catching things about Toi et Moi rings is the pairing of two unique stones. You can choose gemstones that are:

• Complementary (like a soft pink morganite and a white diamond)

• Contrasting (like a deep green emerald and a brilliant white diamond)

• Matching in color but differing in cut (e.g., two diamonds in different shapes)

High contrast creates a bold, modern look. Similar tones feel more romantic and cohesive. Both styles are stunning—it just depends on your vibe.

3. Consider Durability

An engagement ring is meant to last a lifetime, so durability matters. Diamonds are the hardest and most durable gemstones (10 on the Mohs scale), which is why they’re a classic choice.

If you’re pairing a diamond with a colored gem, consider stones that are also relatively hard, like:

• Sapphires (9) – available in blue, pink, yellow, and more

• Rubies (9) – rich, red, and passionate

• Spinel (7.5-8) – a unique and vibrant alternative

• Topaz (8) – colorful and elegant

If you love softer stones like opal or pearls, they’re stunning—but may need extra care or protective settings.

4. Choose Your Cut: Shape Says a Lot

The shape of your gemstones also adds character to your ring. Some popular combinations include:

• Oval + Pear – feminine and balanced

• Heart + Round – romantic and classic

• Emerald + Marquise – bold and geometric

• Two matching shapes – elegant and symmetrical

You can go asymmetrical for a more artistic, modern look or stick with matching shapes for traditional beauty. It’s all about expressing your style.

5. Budget with Intention

The beauty of the Toi et Moi ring is that it works with a wide range of budgets. You can combine a diamond with a more affordable stone like aquamarine, garnet, or morganite without compromising on visual impact or meaning.

Let your heart (and budget) guide you. Focus on what feels right, not just what shines the brightest.

6. Customize with a Trusted Jeweler

When designing your ring, having the right guidance makes all the difference. At KRK Jewels, we work closely with couples to select stones that match their love story, lifestyle, and aesthetic.

Whether you bring in heirloom stones, want to explore rare gems, or need help creating something completely custom, we’re here to make sure every detail is you and yours.

Final Thoughts

Choosing gemstones for your Toi et Moi ring isn’t just about color or cut—it’s about telling your story. From romantic symbolism to personal style, every choice you make brings the ring closer to something truly unforgettable.

Ready to create a ring that’s as unique as your bond? Let KRK Jewels help you craft a Toi et Moi ring that celebrates your love—stone by stone.